This week I was delighted to see Cindy Gallop on the cover of Advertising Age. The cover says “Get Over It. Cindy Gallop is on a mission – and she doesn’t care what you think.” You see Cindy Gallop has had an amazing career as a very high-powered advertising executive and is now extremely outspoken as an advocate for gender and diversity equality in the industry. She is relentless in her pursuits to make the world of advertising and marketing an equal playing ground. And I admire her greatly for her leadership and tenacity. But that is not my favorite thing about her… You see, Cindy and I have something in common – we both like younger men. Nice younger men. Sleeping with nice younger men to be exact.
Now Cindy is 56-years-old and regularly dates 20-something men. I am 45 and prefer 30-31, but no judgement here. It only gives me hope that my sex life is going to be amazing for quite some years to come! According to a fantastic article on salon.com, Gallop has been “gob-smacked” by the sheer numbers of young men interested in older women, particularly on cougar dating sites, and says, “I am never proactive myself because I never have to be. I have more than enough to choose from.” She partially credits the adult industry for this: “I’m struck by the fact that for a lot of men who are into older women these days, increasingly the idea has been placed in their mind by the vast availability of MILF porn.”
Since I have been exploring my single life again over the last 18 months, I have had much the same experience. I have been extremely surprised and incredibly delighted that quite a large demographic of younger men have a specific attraction to older women. It actually continues to amaze me. I was out with one lovely (and gorgeous!) young man last weekend and I asked him to remind me if he specifically had a thing for older women. He does and it’s incredible. He truly finds older women highly desirable. Other men I have met – same thing. They adore older women. Fantasize about them. And yes, MILF porn is a thing. I had no idea.
According to the same salon.com article, Sex therapist and author Ian Kerner similarly underscores the fact that Cindy and I are far from alone: “Women 50-plus are among the fasting-growing demographic of users of online dating sites, and many are finding themselves in relationships or at least ‘sexual situations’ with younger men and really enjoying it,” he says. “These are often women who put a lot of effort into feeling and looking good, and enjoy the sexual libido and attentiveness of younger men.”
Can I get an Amen?! Check out Cindy’s Ted Talk – all about young men and porn. And check out Make Love, Not Porn – Cindy’s project to bring awareness and enable change to the unrealistic education that young men are getting from the mainstream porn industry. We might need to do some reeducation for some of them (and the subject for another blog post!), but a lot of younger men are lovely. Adoring older women. And making us feel as sexy and beautiful as we are!